You’re Traveling, Stop Whinging

by Melissa on November 28, 2011 · 7 comments

I try not to be negative in my writing, but sometimes a girl has just got to vent.  During my travels I have encountered countless people who are beyond ecstatic to be on the road, seeing the world around them, making new friends from all different countries, and experiencing life at it’s greatest.  That being said, I have also come across those who – no matter what – cannot see anything but the negative.
Meet Laura*– Laura loved to complain about everything.  The airline lost her luggage (legitimate complaint), she had to go out to the equivalent of Walmart to buy cheap clothes and now she’s stuck wearing them (oh boo hoo), there are bugs in the hostel bathroom (in the words of Chopper Reid, harden the fuck up).  She even complained that people didn’t pronounce her name right (“it’s not Loooooora its Laaaahrah”).  It got to the point where her nickname became Killjoy because this girl simply could not see the positive in anything.  Furthermore, if anyone decided that they wanted to have a whinge, it meant that we’d call them a “Laaaahrah.”

Meet Stacy* – Stacy started out normal, we met because we were the first two at the bus stop, waiting for our tour to commence.  We had the usual backpacker chitchat – “Where you from? Where have you been? Where are you going?”  all seemed normal.  I should have suspected her initial whinging tendencies when the tourguide informed us that we would be losing all cellphone reception later the first day, sighs of despair came from the seat to my left.  Don’t get me wrong, being cut off initially sucks, but after a few hours it’s actually quite liberating.  Then came the 45degree+ heat.  It was HOT!  Everyone was uncomfortable… but who made her discomfort known loud and clear?  Stacy.  She bitched and moaned that she was sweating profusely and that she just HAD to have the bed closest to the fan…. because she can’t sleep if she’s too hot.  About two nights into the tour, she even had the audacity to complain that the fan didn’t keep her cool enough the previous night – her bed was situated directly beside it, and the fan was NOT rotating.  I’m pretty sure I wasn’t the only one who wanted to slap her.  I actually had to excuse myself from her for the remainder of the day because I was going to end up being rude and letting her know exactly how her whinging was making ME feel.

Meet Petra* — Petra, like Stacy, started out somewhat normal… but it was the constant whinging about having to do certain activities, or simply excluding herself that made her stand out as a Negative Nancy.  By the end of the 9day tour, she became downright mean to anyone who dared point out her negative ways, and would actually behave like a 3 year old having a temper tantrum.  The blatant screaming in your face and sulking honestly made me want to slap her as hard as humanly possible and yell, “how old are you?”
To the likes of Laura, Stacy and Petra out there, why the heck are you complaining? You’re doing one of the most incredible things – traveling.  You are away from the boring day to day of your life.  Be grateful!  Enjoy yourself- if not for YOURSELF, at least try for the OTHERS around you, who are trying to enjoy THEMSELVES.  This isn’t home, nobody said everything was going to be a walk in the park.  In fact, sometimes, it’s surviving the crappy times that make your adventure that much more of a fun story to tell your friends and family back home.  So get over yourself, smile, be happy and take it all in – opportunities like these don’t come along every day.

*All names have been changed to protect their true whinging identities.


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The Gillie Blog November 30, 2011 at 9:08 am

I agree with you 100%. In fact, I'd like to do a response to this post 🙂


The Gillie Blog November 30, 2011 at 9:08 am

P.S. how do I active the twitter box on my blogger? the box is there, but no tweets show up 🙁


C.W. Bush December 10, 2011 at 6:11 pm

That first photo of you is ridiculously hot, just quietly.

But well said. Bitching while traveling is like complaining about having too much sex.


Mellyboo December 10, 2011 at 8:35 pm

Gillie- Your tweets aren't showing up cause your twitter account is private… at least that's why I'm assuming they're not showing up.

Chris- I love that when I'm feeling crappy, you always manage to give me an ego boost. But you're right, I hate those whine-y bitches and blokes who are just not happy with anything.


Caz December 10, 2011 at 10:33 pm

Amen! Our pet peeve is those who always complain while travelling. Seriously just go home, why waste your money?


Kenin- The Constant Rambler October 11, 2012 at 3:28 am

I absolutely agree! I can’t stand it when people complain about absolutely uncontrollable things while traveling. It’s why we usually avoid tour groups when we are out exploring. Funny thing is, we’ve had some of our best times when things go wrong when we travel.
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Cristina November 30, 2013 at 9:29 am

Omg my biggest pet peeve. I have to do the same thing and stay away. Far far away. But you’re braver than me for biting your tongue. i probably would have not been so nice, accidentally dropped them off in the middle of a safari LOL! It’s so important to surround ourselves with positive people. Things like Negativity, jealousy, and selfishness don’t make you a better person. When things are out of my control I completely embrace it because I know that thousands of years ago our ancestors didnt have the same luxuries that we do – yet they survived.
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